Essential Tips to Surviving Wedding Planning
Planning a wedding can be exciting but also overwhelming. With so many decisions to make—from choosing vendors to finalizing tiny details—it’s easy to feel stressed. However, wedding planning doesn't have to be all-consuming. By using a few simple strategies, you can stay organized and enjoy the process.
This blog offers practical tips to help keep your wedding planning on track and enjoyable. From managing your time effectively to finding ways to unwind, you’ll discover how to navigate the process with less stress. Remember, your wedding day is important, but the journey to that day should be just as meaningful and fun!
Stick To a Timeline
One of the biggest sources of stress during wedding planning is feeling like everything needs to be done at once. To avoid this, create (or find) a detailed timeline early in the process.
Start by identifying all the major tasks you need to complete—booking venues, securing vendors, sending invitations, etc.—and break them down by due date. Aim to space these tasks out over the course of your engagement. For example, focus on finding your venue and caterer within the first few months, then move on to florists and entertainment. This way, you can avoid scrambling last-minute to complete everything.
Having a timeline also gives you a clear sense of what needs your immediate attention and what can wait, allowing you to focus on one thing at a time rather than juggling multiple tasks simultaneously.
Prioritize the Important Things
It's tempting to want every detail of your wedding to be perfect, but trying to control everything will only add unnecessary stress. Instead, hone in on the elements that mean the most to you and your partner. Is it the food, the décor, the entertainment?
Once you’ve pinpointed what matters most, put more time and energy into those areas, and let other, less important details be less of a priority. For example, if the venue is crucial but you’re not too fussy about the flowers, it’s okay to compromise on floral arrangements to free up some budget and mental space. By focusing on what’s most important, you’ll create a wedding that feels personal and meaningful without getting bogged down in minutiae.
Break the Big into the Bite-Sized
Instead of tackling massive planning tasks all at once, break them into smaller, manageable steps. For example, if you’re working on your guest list, focus on deciding family invites one day and friends another day. Completing small pieces reduces overwhelm and gives a sense of accomplishment.
Create a Wedding-Free Zone
This could be a physical zone in your house that’s not allowed to be filled with anything wedding related. Or a mental zone, where you leave yourself one hour a day or one day a week to put aside the wedding details and do something relaxing with your partner.
Delegate Decision-Making
By now, you’ve probably had friends or family offer up their help. So if you’re finding you’re in over your head, don’t be shy. Take them up on the offer. Ask them to help research things, narrow down vendor lists, or be there with you to meet vendors for another opinion.
Couples often face “decision fatigue” during wedding planning, so being able to offload some of the smaller details can be a huge relief.
Hire a Wedding Planner or Day of Coordinator
Don’t want to burden your family/friends with wedding tasks? Seriously consider a wedding planner. It’s worth the investment. At minimum, they can help narrow down the search for vendors and offer vetted recommendations. That alone can help you sleep at night.
But they’re also there to run interference and coordinate with all the other vendors. Your wedding day is like a theatrical production, and your planner is your stage manager, telling everyone where to be and when. That’s why weddings with planners or day of coordinators run infinitely smoother than those without.
Plan Non-Wedding Related Fun
It’s easy for wedding planning to dominate every conversation and activity with your partner, but maintaining a sense of normalcy in your relationship is crucial. Schedule non-wedding-related fun activities regularly to keep your relationship strong and to remind yourselves that life exists beyond the big day. Whether it’s a weekend getaway, a movie night, or exploring a new restaurant, having time together without the pressure of planning will recharge you.
Remember, the wedding is just one day—the marriage that follows is what matters most, so nurturing that during the planning phase is just as important as choosing the perfect venue.
Don’t Be Afraid of Therapy (with or without your partner)
Wedding planning can sometimes bring out unresolved stress or tension in relationships between you and your partner or with family members. There’s no shame in seeking therapy to help manage any emotions that come up during this time.
Therapy can provide a safe space to navigate these challenges, strengthen communication, and reduce anxiety. Whether you attend as a couple or individually, talking to a professional can offer helpful coping mechanisms to manage wedding stress. It's a healthy way to ensure you're going into your marriage feeling balanced and supported.
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